Abundance can only come from a universal perspective, and from this vantage, there is no wanting. There is nothing to change. Nothing is missing, just changed in form.
The universal perspective is abundant, content and happy, there
is nothing to be unhappy about. It not about personal change, or trying to change something. That is a little bit like trying to put five fingers on five fleas at once. Every time you get two pinned, the other 3 crawl off in different directions. Identifying too much with different personality traits that people are not happy with is just a great waste of time. ‘
Moreover, the minute we start thinking that way, we develop problem consciousness. In other words, we set out to conquer a problem in our personality, we conquer it, and no sooner do we do this than we find fifty more. Finally we find something we cannot conquer and we get frustrated. Then we become compulsive about trying to fix something in ourselves, and finally we discover some of the problems we thought we had fixed, came back. Of course, that’s even more frustrating.
Instead of problem consciousness, there can be openness and grace, a sense of flow that we have within ourselves and with other people.
It begins with seeing that everything you want, or miss you already have? This is grace. Can you see yourself in everyone you meet? Where have you done what they are doing, positive and negative.
If nothing is missing – just changed in form, then everything you see is a reflection of you. Every character trait in another is you. If they are bad you are bad, if they are good you have that goodness. Putting people on pedestals is foolish and putting people below you is disturbing to your peace of mind.
By asking where have I done that, you need to be able to look at behavior laterally. If they have committed a crime and you have not, then you need to ask where have I done what I don’t like about that, for example – where have I hurt people. 1000 little increments add up to 1 big action.You may need to confess this. Also, you need to see that the difference between thought and matter is like ice and water. Sometimes we think that our thoughts are not actions. But they are, they count.
Many times we are trying to be resilient to something that doesn’t exist, like a loss or a disappointment, whereas, it’s wiser to ask, “is there really anything missing?”
Resilience can harden people but in that hardening there can be a holding onto the perception of a problem that doesn’t exist. If you are in a bad marriage (not physical violence) and you are trying to be resilient to it, then the definition of bad becomes the focus of your reslience. But maybe “bad” is the wrong definition. Maybe it’s simply exhausted in which case there is no need to be resilient.
This awareness is at the heart of healing.