How to Determine Whether You Have Eustress or Distress. Which one do you have?

Spirituality and Work are not often put together in one sentence. We go to Yoga retreats to be spiritual and do an MBA to be Corporate. That’s conventional thinking. And for the great majority of people, that’s good enough. They keep the two well apart. So, in many cases, people use spirituality to balance work. That’s rubbish. It breeds incompetence. That’s not what spirituality is for and nor is work a task that needs to be balanced.

Rebalancing work, demonstrates incompetence. A lifestyle I personally detest. I have seen alcoholism, depression, addicted children and physical self destruction come from the notion that it’s ok to work to the “bonus” as long as there’s a respite at the end of it.

Slow suicide is no better than fast suicide. Companies can’t be held accountable either. It’s a personal responsibility to know when you reach your level of incompetence, feel stressed and off track. Companies cannot measure the early signs of degenerative wellbeing in an individual. You need to be accountable for this.

Now, this is a personal thing. Stress is healthy, it’s referred to as eustress. Without eustress nothing happens. When people become afraid of any stress, that’s equally toxic as too much. This is one of the key measures a life coach needs to have for their client. A way to determine when stress is past eustress and entering distress.

  • Do you sleep soundly? Yes? Eustress
  • Do you feel angry and resentful Yes? Distress
  • Do you worry about money allot? Yes? Distress
  • Do you feel secure in your job? No? Distress
  • Are you emotionally motivated? No? Eustress
  • Do you wake up tired? Yes? Distress
  • Are you more than 5kg overweight? Yes? Distress
  • Do you feel loved, loving and lovable? No to any? Distress

More than three distress answers?

Bring spirituality into your working day. Not as a break but as a process.

People under constant distress are more likely to become sick, mentally or physically. There is a clear response association between psychological distress and major causes of mortality across the full range of distress.

Higher education has been linked to a reduction in psychological distress in both men and women, and these effects persist throughout the ageing process, not just immediately after receiving education. However, this link does lessen with age.

In the clinic, distress is a patient reported outcome that has a huge impact on patient’s quality of life. To assess patient distress, a Hospital Anxiety and Depression Scale (HADS) questionnaire is most commonly used. The score from the HADS questionnaire guides a clinician to recommend lifestyle modifications or further assessment for mental disorders like depression.

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