“the preciseness of your work standards, knowledge, attention to detail, information and elimination of errors.
Learning on the job sounds like a great way to grow but it’s a losers game. The cost of burning $10 is $10, we do not have to experience it to know it.
The time for mistakes is with a coach, off line. This is why we call it “wonder and explore” sessions. You come to coaching to explore and wonder about different ways to solve the same issue. Why in the heck would you learn how to drive an F1 racing car in a race. No, you learn in practice sessions and you implement in races.
Sure, there’s always a take home in a race, in a day’s work, in an event, but that’s not the focus. The focus is accuracy and accuracy only comes when learning is done off-line.
Accuracy means many things. It’s a really spiritual word. The spirit is accurate. Your heart knows your goals. Your emotions, and therefore the opinions of others, has no accuracy.
Sometimes we think that we can ask 20 people to get the most accurate result but the truth is the most accurate result is to ask no one, except a coach. A coach or mentor asks dark questions to challenge your accuracy. If you get emotional in the face of being challenged you know you’re inaccurate. Accuracy and truth are one topic.
Inaccuracy starts when we over emphasise our independence. When we say “I know how to do this” we are often inaccurate. We are more often than not saying “to the best of my experience, I know how to do this.” and this knowing is broken, because it is knowing within a frame of our own making. Maybe we know how to play chess, because the only people we’ve played against are local retirees. What if we were playing in the world chess tournament? Would we still say, “I know how to play chess?”
Accuracy in self-analysis is akin to tickling ourselves.. it just doesn’t work and doesn’t make you laugh.Chris Walker
Emotions are, at the very least, inaccurate. How can they be anything more than someone’s personal opinion. Emotions have no truth in them except to say “this is what I feel.” And the greatest inaccuracy in the world is how we feel.
You’re watching TV, it’s an act, a show, a performance, your eyes water, you want to cry, you feel … what …. sad, romantic, sorrowful and yet, it’s an act. Nothing happened but your body thinks, OMG, she died. She didn’t die. It’s an act. Just like your boss or partner crying or laughing. It’s an act and if you blow with emotions, you’re the audience.
As an audience member you can, at best, follow. You’re the loser who jumps when they are told, buy what you’re told, have opinions about what you’re told. No thinking, just reacting. It’s an audience life, like a taxi driver who always seems to know how to fix the world. It’s an act.
Air pollution is very bad for your lungs. Unless you’re one of the greatest scientists who ever lived and say “there’s no such thing as air pollution, there are just environments we haven’t adapted to yet.”
The craziest people I ever met are therapists, the most unhealthy are yoga teachers, the most corrupt are lawyers, the most emotional people are financial planners, the most mentally messed up are meditators, the most exhausted are law enforcement officers, the most depressed have the easiest jobs, and the list of contradictions can go on and on. So, finding good help isn’t easy. Most advice is inaccurate and based on the wound of the seller.
The entire science of mental health is a mess because the definition of healthy mentally is inaccurate. People throw ideologies at each other and then wonder why the world becomes confused. What does it really feel like to be a champion? Is it as much fun as it looks to be wealthy? Is swimming really good for you? Inaccurate assumptions lead to inaccurate expectations and inaccurate expectations have killed more people than any other single cause.
Start with the finer matters of being true to your words. If you say you’ll arrive at 8.00am be there at 7.55am so that at 8.00am, you’re ready. It’s not about arriving at 7.55am and then waiting to 8.00am and then asking for a coffee or the toilet. Be ready, be accurate at 8.00am.. not 8.01am.
Move to your attire, be accurate with how you dress. Be very deliberate.
Be accurate with your estimates of your success. Bloating up your expectations will result in considerable exhaust gas release. Be accurate.
But most of all, think things through. Emotions are inaccurate and there are already millions of illness on earth associated with inaccurate emotions. You don’t need to add to it.
Finally, be accurate when you speak of spirit. Spirit is not emotion. Spirit is the future and you are guided. Be accurate with your vision, inspiration and purpose (goals) and don’t be disheartened by your judgements of yourself. Remember, those judgements, and the emotions that accompany them, are just an act. No need to be in the audience.