Confidence and Self belief form the backbone of stress management. Once either of these are gone, stress multiplies and usually impacts people around you in the most negative of ways. They say they understand, but they don’t, they resent it.
Your stress is not my stress
The first step in sustainable confidence and self-belief is knowing when it’s your stress or you’ve taken on someone elses. In particular this applies to your spouse. if they are not happy, stressed and filled with rage or anxiety, this has little or nothing to do with you.
Two stressed people do not make one happy one.Chris Walker
This does not imply that we do not have compassion, quite the opposite. However, we make others weak when we solve their stress. WE make them strong when we believe in them and trust them to deal with their stress. Certainty we do not take blame for it. If someone’s expectation of us is different to who we are, that’s really not a problem.
The owner of a business, the CEO will potentialy stress about the business failing. We should not stress about that. We should however, have a plan b, should their stress prove true. Their stress is not our stress. If we are focussed on buidling our sales or serving our client that is our stress. But stress is a myth.
Stress comes from an un-balanced perception. So, in fact, all stress is a myth. All things are balanced. We can choose not to see it or we can choose to see it. This is our call. If we refuse to see balance we will be stressed. If we are stressed we often seek others to validate our lopsided unbalanced view. They do us no favour by complicity. Better to see balance. That’s the root of happiness.
WHY A VISION INSPIRATION AND PURPOSE STATEMENT REMOVES STRESS
All human eyes are turned to the future. When the future is disrupted, humans step away from life. Energy is provided for those who look forward to the future. And resources are provided for those who invest in the future. When we try to live the future before it comes we bankrupt ourselves morally and spiritually. The key to the future is in the details of it. One must become fully present with the future. We do this in coaching by expanding the now. Becoming present with the future is more than dreaming of it, although this is important.
You own it. It’s simple. It’s portable and it’s inside of you. It affects your productivity, your health, your happiness. It affects your relationship, your friendships, your children and your P&L at work. If you tap it, there’s no stopping you, if you don’t then it’s all just hard work and struggle. Your Vision, Inspiration and Purpose affects everything important and it is without doubt the single most important ingredient in determining the quality of your life, work life balance and the essential exchange in relationships. It’s not fluff, just try being without hope for a day and see how it feels and how many people want to invest in you. Nature thinking is simple. It’s Nature’s Laws presented so you can bring nature home and be in complete control of your dialogue with life.
I have been coaching humanity for 40 years. Nothing impacts the child more than the un-lived dreams of the parent… vision is important for family, career and relationships alike..Chris Walker