Addiction is not your true nature. It is caused by your emotional identity, your ego, (your beliefs and attachments). Your true nature is balanced. If you have even a small addiction it will be keeping you from yourself, from a place of power and connection. In this article I would like to help you reconnect deeply with your true nature and break any addictions you may be experiencing on the surface.
Balanced living is neither excess nor deficiency. Neither overeating nor under eating. Never too much, never too little. The result of balanced living is obvious. A balanced person will be at ease. Whatever the situation, their relaxed attitude will not be lost. Unconditionally, the lack of tension will stay. A person who is balanced is always at ease. Even if the death of a loved one comes, and there is grief, they will be at ease: they will receive death as they receive birth. If misery comes they will receive it as they receive joy. Whatever happens it cannot dislodge this person from their place. This relaxed attitude, this ease is a consequence of being balanced. It is your true nature.
When the Buddha was dying he asked his followers “why are you weeping? If you would have wept on another day it would have been okay, but this is the last day. Why are you weeping? Do not waste your time in weeping. Treat this day as any other day.”
This balanced living is revealed in the lack of tension. Lack of tension is one of the great witnesses to the the true nature of a person. They are at ease, they do not get over-stressed under any circumstance and take all of life in their stride. Their mood changes for nothing. Nothing disturbs them; nothing dislocates them from their home in their heart, their centeredness. To such a person you cannot add anything. You cannot take anything away; they are fulfilled. Their every breath is a fulfilled breath, every mouthful is a full satisfaction, every step is done with intent and purpose: silent and blissful they need nothing within. This is the ultimate freedom from addiction. Everything this person will do, they will do out of love, kindness and commitment. There is no hunger, no desperation, and no fear. So, there is no addiction.
Buddha said, “I sit in order to be silent, but sometimes this is too easy, so I walk. But when I walk I carry the same silence within me. I sit, and inside it is the same — silent. I walk, the inside and outside are the same — silent” This is the model of a person who has found their true nature.
We’re not talking here about a partial breaking of addiction. The great mystics of our time Jesus, Buddha Mohammed, Abraham, they were in their true nature – totally able, free to choose. If they had dedicated their lives to music then they would have been great musicians too. But their gift was in spiritual-actualisation; they were in love in all circumstances. They were not commercial poets, but their words were poetry, they were not musicians but their message was music of the greatest kind. They were not trying to be specialists but were allowing themselves to simply be their true nature and allow the beauty of their gifts to flow through their being. Even though some people make it sound like these people had extraordinary lives, and the myths grow into super human characters, the real truth is that you can do this too.
We are not concerned with partial breaking of addictions. We’re concerned with total being. You can be centred, you can be grounded, and you can be balanced – always in the middle without effort. As a result you will be at ease at ease with the universe, at home, in relationship and the many things that follow. You will have desire to contribute from within, from your total contentment. You will feel satisfied and comfortable before you leave for work rather than as a result of it. You will not become happier from a win than a loss. A gentleness will descend over your disposition.
The joy of life will be fulfilled for you when you live from your true nature, because you will understand that you are already fulfilled before you act. Then the world simply becomes a playground in which the differing circumstances of your life come and go. You may decide to change location because you don’t like where you are, but this is not an addiction in order to make you feel better, because inside, you already feel great. It is like sitting for dinner with a full stomach. There is no appetite (addiction) but you eat to nourish.
Happiness can never been known on the surface. We may eat sugar or drink alcohol or dance but unless this happiness is felt deeply then in the morning there is no sense of it. The whole of life in all its beautiful diversity can only be known from this place of our true nature. Living on the surface then only lukewarm life is possible and then addictions are an essential part of living. A life disconnected from nature, and therefore your true nature, is a shallow life. It is out of balance and high fluctuations of emotional disturbance permeate everything. One drama to the next. It becomes a daily routine of emotional turbulence of high and low, tension and surrender. This is a very unfulfilling existence and it feeds addiction.
To break addictions one might remember a few ideas below
1. We must separate the inner world from the outer to find fulfilment.
2. The inner world cannot be satisfied by dogma, philosophy or materiality.
3. The inner world seeks nothing.
4. Nothing of the outer world of satisfaction (senses) ever satisfies the soul.
5. Until nature’s beauty can be felt we are not in our true nature.
6. Nature’s beauty exists in all things: storms, darkness and flowers.
7. Peace of mind, health of the body are the external testaments to true nature.
8. Addiction is the breakdown between human emotion and natural law. The fight can never be won.