“A human being is a part of the whole called by us universe, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feeling as something separated from the rest, a kind of optical delusion of his consciousness. This delusion is a kind of prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for a few persons nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living creatures and the whole of nature in its beauty.”
What can you say about the most common strengths of the business person in corporate life other than the fact that they are good at mathematics, logic and rationality. Those are considered to be the key strategic skills that make people, especially management consultants, good at their job.
More often than not this is not a true reflection of the total character of that individual. When you witness the very same person who is logical and rational at work playing with the children, they transform into somebody completely different. Or at least we hope so.
Of course there are those who fall in love with this rational logical part of their Brain and they do bring it home and forget to embrace their full humanity. The ultimate result of that is burnout, pent-up emotion, ill health and tiredness because they just don’t know how to switch off. The fault doesn’t necessarily lie with the individual. Organisations design jobs that are logic and rationality dependent. Therefore, the individual is not rewarded nor supported in expressing the full dimension of their being at work.
When jobs that are poorly designed or the nature of the work is such that creativity and intuition are not required them the individual is find themselves in a position where they can only express rational logic at work and then they must find the opportunity to express the other part of themselves at home. This is typically called worklife balance it doesn’t work because ultimately, living in a world of that is rational and logical for 10 hours a day, Five days a week for several years is enough to drive a person nuts.
So if you find yourself in job that is demanding of you only logic and rational thought it may pay you to consider some options:
1. Option one is the possibility that you can bring a silent connection to your creative intuitive side to the office, celebrate it, to engage it, enjoy it and then you’ll feel full nourished in your workplace. The best way to do this is through the love of nature and to make sure that you keep objects around you that remind you of this innate capacity for intuitive creative feeling. This whole topic is referred to as biophilia. It’s what I’ve spent my life trying to encourage corporate individuals to embrace because the last thing we want is to find people at work who have lost the part of them that’s human, and are only using the logical rational part of their brain to do their job, make money, make decisions, and then come home trying to compensate for it.
2. Option two is much simpler. You can blame the company, and the job and recognise that you need more out of life, like a better job that only asks for more than your logical rational brain. That means you need to change jobs and go somewhere else. The problem with going somewhere else is that under the pressure of deadlines and results that other job can very well turn into a repeat of the first.
Either way, maybe it’s a combination of both. But we don’t always have the luxury of being able to pickup bags change jobs and explore a new position. If you do, why not?
The single most important thing is to make sure that you don’t get into the bad habit of working with your rational brain being logical all day and then try to compensate for that by being creative and flamboyant at home. This is out of balance and it would lead to either going heartless at work or trying to extract too much from a relationship at home. Which in turn would turn your partner or kids into the rational ones to counterbalance your duality.
And Another thing to avoid is taking time off thinking that some miracle will take place why your on absentee leave and that you’ll go back to work refreshed. If the work you do demands only rational and logical thinking then it won’t take long before your other side will become frustrated again, You’ll go home again trying to leverage too much out of your relationship and you’ll end up really annoyed at your job in a very short time.
I like my process best because it makes you independent of the company and ensures that your heart stays open no matter what the work. It also means that with fluctuations in workload and the demand for rational thinking you can remain balanced and humane rather than over strengthen and exert your rational muscle. I don’t think anybody, long-term, likes to be at work without their intuitive or creative side on board. So I’d be suggesting that the wisest strategy is to take control of this aspect of your life. To make sure you get adequate exercise, to connect with nature, to deal with your emotional crisis and not get bogged down in the grind of low-priority work.