The Innerwealth Three Step Cure for Feeling Blue
Something usually triggers the blues. Stress exhaserbates them. Stimulants externalise them, sending depression within. Calm is the best cure even if it feels painfully passive at the time.
Go sit in nature and just let your mind drift to what isn’t wrong with your life. Look down the list of what could be wrong and isn’t. Maybe you can even write things down like “I haven’t got xyz” or “I have still got abc” thinking like this focusses you on the abundance of what is, rather than the issues.
The ultimate achievement in being calm is emptiness. When you come to the place of feeling like you are nothing, need nothing, want nothing, you will realise that you have everything. Emptiness is the authentic space of your primal and spiritual home. Some call it soul. Whatever you call it, there is absolutely nothing there. It is emptiness and in this place you are impenetrable and powerful. Empty is actually full.
In my Back on Track online coaching course – there are seven steps to recovery, getting back in track in life. But the ultimate and most important step is trust.
Trust that there is order in the chaos. Trust that your current chaos has order. That you are actually not off track at all – that where you are is a place of transition that is essential for you to create meaning and gift yourself with fulfilment. You can know that balance exists and for every dark there must be a light and if you can process the dark experiences light shines from them. Always.
Now, you may feel shitty. That’s because there’s a lack of certain chemicals flowing in your body. During dark times it is essential that you maintain trust that this pain has a pleasure and that one of those pleasures is growth to new meaning. You are evolving and this alone is a stand up, brilliant awareness that can, in itself, just by trusting this, cause those missing chemicals whose absence is making you feel blue, come back into your body system. Believe it before you see it. Trust that all blue has a gold in it. If you can’t see it, email or call me for help. Free – it’s what I do.
Blue is simply lost hope that something you wanted will come true.
Suicidal feelings and depression are both triggered by the idea that tomorrow will not be as good as yesterday.
When we lose hope we easily imagine yesterday as more pain free than tomorrow. So, when that happens we lose the will to move forward. This mental state demonstrates the power of human imagination because actually tomorrow will be better than today but when we can’t imagine it, then it becomes a self fulfilling prophecy. Looking forward to tomorrow is the single most important element in life and if our imagination is powerful enough to imagine the worst, well, we can use that same power to imagine the best.
Now there is a caution here. Imagining fantasies is not wise. There is always a blend of support and challenge in life. So imagining pleasure without pain is not healthy and may have been a contibuting factor in becoming blue.
So when you imagine the future, use terms that are not sensory delights. For example – there are two ways to say “I imagine a life partner” – one would be ” I imagine a beautiful (sensory) – sexy (sensory) – honest (sensory) partner.” This is fantasy because there are two sides to everyone and you will get a shock when they exhibit the true nature of being human.
Instead you can simply say “I imagine a life partner who I love and who loves me on our journey through life”
Here’s an exercise you might try:
Make a list of things that would make you feel better about the grand scheme of your life: focus on the career objectives that will get you to where you want to be, think about how you can nurture relationships with your friends and family, make a plan to change the world by donating your time or services to a charitable cause, or chart a course to travel to all the places you’ve always dreamed of going to. You can even do little things, like getting new clothes and personal effects to replace the old ones you got rid of, in an effort to shift your personal image and update the vibration you’re sending out to the world. Whatever it is that you want to do, identify it, and note what these improvements will do for your self-esteem and confidence. Don’t worry about going overboard! Let your imagination go wild. Once you’ve completed this list, decide what is most feasible for you to do ASAP, and then do it.