There are competing forces for your time: health, wealth, love, friends, learning and growing.
While at first glance it may appear that these competing forces are disparate – going in different directions, that assumption cannot remain true if you choose to live your purpose in life and be paid well for it.
Imagine five elephants tied to a post (I know it’s not a good animal rights picture but bare with me please) – now imagine them pulling in opposite directions. The post won’t move because there is a counterbalance of the force of each elephant. The individual will say that their life is rich and in balance, but really their life is rich and rewarding in counter balance.
That counterbalanced person will say that their sport counterbalanced their stress and their friends counterbalance their work and their relationship love counterbalances their wealth, or something like that.
But to live on purpose one needs to forget balance and become aligned. Aligning friends, love, work, wealth and health with one single point of focus, their purpose.
You see, when the going gets tough in life, counterbalance makes it safe, but when the going gets tough on purpose in life, we need all of our life elements pulling and pushing us harder in the direction we chose, not making us comfortable.
Seeking counterbalance means comfort and safety, but seeking purpose is not comfortable nor safe. Seeking purpose there is no 50% – no half hearted stories, no regret.
In counterbalance there is nothing but regret because what is good for health is bad for love and what is good for wealth is bad for friends and what is good for love is bad for health. You can’t win no matter what you do, the forces of life counterbalance and contradict each other.
On purpose, and being paid extremely well for it you simply know your purpose and love for it, health for it, wealth for it, friends for it. It’s way out of balance because you have a great vision, dream, life outcome. You want to make a difference and you know that while you counterbalance each element counteracts the energy of the other.
If all the elements pull in one direction you don’t need safety – there’s a certain aura of confidence that the little glitches in life will be superseded with big victories. You might be struggling with money but your love will pull you through or you might be struggling with health but your wealth will pull you through or you might be struggling with love but your friends will pull you through.
The big difference is to see the difference between rescue and purpose: in counterbalance with the elephants pulling on the centre pole (you and your sense of self) there is an obsession with feeling good, so the counterbalance model feels superb. If you don’t feel good in health, then you improve your health. But in the purpose model, if you don’t feel good in health you know that nothing is missing, health is just in another form, because all the elephants are pulling in the same direction.
The difference between being on purpose and being paid extremely well for it and being in counterbalance mode is not really measured clearly in the outcome of your life, it is however measured in the quality of your life. One process thrives on experiences and events, the other on a deep deep sense that your life has a meaning greater than the next happy thing.
Living purpose and being paid extremely well for it is the prime focus of Walker International Consulting. We offer the 30 Day Challenge and Life Coaching “Back on Track Program” to help people find and live their purpose.
Quotes about Being On Purpose
The purpose of life is a life of purpose.
– Robert Byrne
Twenty years from now you will be more disappointed by the things that you didn’t do than by the ones you did do. So throw off the bowlines. Sail away from the safe harbor. Catch the trade winds in your sails. Explore. Dream. Discover.
– Mark Twain
The first thing to do in life is to do with purpose what one proposes to do.
– Pablo Casals
To reach a port, we must sail – sail, not tie at anchor, sail not drift.
– Franklin D. Roosevelt
We are not in a position in which we have nothing to work with. We already have capacities, talents, direction, missions, callings.
– Abraham Maslow
I have brought myself by long meditation to the conviction that a human being with a settled purpose must accomplish it, and that nothing can resist a will which will stake even existence upon its fulfillment.
– Benjamin Disraeli
A small group of thoughtful people could change the world. Indeed, it’s the only thing that ever has.
– Margaret Mead
I’m sure you have a theme: the theme of your life. You can embellish it or desecrate it, but it’s your theme, and as long as you follow it, you will experience harmony and peace of mind.
– Agatha Christie
A soul without a high aim is like a ship without a rudder.
– Eileen Caddy
Strange is our situation here upon earth. Each of us comes for a short visit, not knowing why, yet sometimes seeming to divine a purpose.
– Albert Einstein
The aim of life is self-development, to realize one’s nature perfectly.
– Oscar Wilde
If one way be better than another, that you may be sure is nature’s way.
The very first condition of lasting happiness is that a life should be full of purpose, aiming at something outside self.
– Hugh Black
I know that I have found fulfillment. I have an object in life, a task … a passion.
– George Sand
Great minds have purposes, others have wishes.
– Washington Irving
Figure out what your purpose is in life, what you really and truly want to do with your time and your life; then be willing to sacrifice everything and then some to achieve it. If you are not willing to make the sacrifice, then keep searching.
– Quintina Ragnacci
This is true joy in life — being used for a purpose recognized by yourself as mighty.
– George Bernard Shaw
No man or woman is an island. To exist just for yourself is meaningless. You can achieve the most satisfaction when you feel related to some greater purpose in life, something greater than yourself.
– Dennis Waitley
My passions were all gathered together like fingers that made a fist. Drive is considered aggression today; I knew it then as purpose.
– Bette Davis
Effort and courage are not enough without purpose and direction.
– John F. Kennedy
If Heaven made him – earth can find some use for him.
– Chinese Proverb
If you know with a complete absence of doubt that what you are doing is consistent with your own purpose and that you are involved in accomplishing a great affair, then you are at peace with yourself and in harmony with your own heroic mission.
– Dr. Wayne Dyer
The secret of success is consistency of purpose.
– Benjamin Disraeli
Purpose is the quality we choose to shape our lives around.
– Richard J. Leider