I recently heard a friend of a friend tell his wife “I’m off to the Phillipines” which, for this guy is understandable… he’s a busy entrepreneur. Then he added, “backpacking” for three weeks with some mates.

His wife is from Colombia. She comes from a poor home and has transcended her heritage through her marriage and family with her entrepreneur husband. So when I hear him say “going to the Philippines backpacking” I know he means “shagging and partying with prostitutes” – but what she hears is “ahhhh some time with the kids without him.”

She doesn’t hear the lie. She doesn’t want to hear the lie. She wants to hear that all is as it is. 

This is a unique characteristic of relationships. I can testify to it myself with a recent break up that, in spite of being disciplined about seeing balance in people, I’d created a little fantasy, one that was sold well by my partner, and one I really really really wanted to believe (just like the Colombian wife).

When illusions shatter we feel depressed. Of course we do, We were on a high, elated that there was a half truth somewhere in the universe. We bought it hook, line and sinker. Then BOOM it snaps.

Some lessons for me came out of this shattering of illusion:

1. In doing the balancing process make sure you do all eight columns because just balancing negatives up to neutral is going to set you up for failure

2. Do it on paper. I got into the habit of seeing these negatives and balancing them in my head… it doesn’t work. You need to keep a journal of balance process.

3. Don’t be embarrassed to bring negatives up or positives down but always do one of each otherwise you might bring a whole bunch of negatives up and elate, or positives down and depress. Simply see that every positive has a correlate negative.

4. The big key in the balance process is to say “where have i done that or who thinks I’ve done that?” it’s important to realise that what we judge in others we don’t love in ourselves. This is a big key.

Enjoy

 

About the Author Chris Walker

Uniquely Australian, highly intuitive and inspired, Chris Walker is on the forefront of radical personal development and change that inspires people to find purpose and to live in harmony with the Laws of Nature. His methods are dynamic, and direct. His work is gifted, heart-opening and inspirational. The process Chris embraces can be confrontational, but if you are prepared to “step out” the personal power that this knowledge gives you is without doubt life changing and truly inspiring. Chris’s purpose is to open hearts and to stop the hurt. His work comes from his heart and is a truly magnificent gift for anyone ready to receive it. Chris shows people how to bring spirit into their life and keep it there. His sensitivity and empathy to others is his gift. The most powerful thing that we can do with our lives is to be on purpose, and live with the knowledge of spirit. Chris helps you discover this, that which is already yours, and through his work, you will find the courage and love to honour your-self and follow your heart. Chris brings his work to individuals and businesses. He believes for business success, you first need to create personal success, and this happens when your business and the people within it are on purpose. Chris Walker is an author, a speaker and a truly inspirational individual who has been fortunate enough in this life to find and live his truth.
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